March 21, 2013

Find the Thing You’re Most Passionate About

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…Then Do It On Nights And Weekends For The Rest Of Your Life
By David Ferguson

I have always been a big proponent of following your heart and doing exactly what you want to do. It sounds so simple, right? But there are people who spend years—decades, even—trying to find a true sense of purpose for themselves. My advice? Just find the thing you enjoy doing more than anything else, your one true passion, and do it for the rest of your life on nights and weekends when you’re exhausted and cranky and just want to go to bed.

It could be anything—music, writing, drawing, acting, teaching—it really doesn’t matter. All that matters is that once you know what you want to do, you dive in a full 10 percent and spend the other 90 torturing yourself because you know damn well that it’s far too late to make a drastic career change, and that you’re stuck on this mind-numbing path for the rest of your life.

Is there any other way to live?

Read the rest of the article over at The Onion.

Anyone else out there who want to quit their jobs and dive in 100 percent after reading this? I sure do.


December 20, 2012

Last Day on Earth

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I’m going to give it to you straight, like a pear cider made from 100% pear. I don’t buy it. We’ve been told the world will end so many times that what little faith I might have had in our impending doom has utterly dissipated.
Apocalypse Now

That doesn’t mean the idea of the apocalypse can’t be useful, however. Say that the world was ending tomorrow, what would you wish you had done? What little bits of life would you like to explore? How do you want to spend your last day on Earth?

Inquiring minds want to know.

(I would tell you to try and accomplish your goals as well, but since I’ll be spending the last day on Earth convincing strangers to join me in a taste test of coffee, I can’t really advice anyone on anything. If you can spend your day accomplishing something wonderful, I salute you!)

March 6, 2012

The Big Fear

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Hi guys!

Today, I’m guest posting over on Kourtney Heintz’ blog about the scariest thing I did as a writer.

Go take a look?

February 6, 2012

The Circle of Fail

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I make the same mistake four times a year. I step onto the scale (or try a new dress and have it not fit, or try an old skirt and have it not fit, or notice that my face looks different in pictures from a couple of years back), note down the number that defines whether I’m doing a good job of being a woman or not, and then promptly panic.

This leads to a stream of good intentions that last about a month, by which time I feel better about myself and go back to my everyday life. Four months later, I’ll step on the scale (or swap pants with a friend and realize we’re no longer the same size, or get hand-me-downs from my mom that it turns out I can’t wear, or have an ice-cream binge followed by a burst of guilt) and start all over again.

I call this the Circle of Fail.

This January was no different. I started out with good intentions. The first two weeks were excellent. I felt good, I worked hard, I trained even harder and I shed kilos like a pro, but then it stopped. The next three weeks, I lost nothing. Did I do anything differently? Not a thing. I’ve tracked my calorie intake every day since I started the Paleo challenge (for the second time, this time more successfully), and I’m doing okay. I’m cutting back on carbs and fat, I’m eating less than normal, I’m maintaining my training program, and nothing happens. Let me tell you, there’s nothing less motivating than saying no to every temptation, and not seeing results.

Well, I say I’m not seeing results, but that’s not exactly true. The weight I lost in the first two weeks have stayed off, and I have lost a centimeter all around my body. But centimeters are slower and harder to measure, and every time I step on the scale and it gives me the same number (77.5kg), I feel more defeated. I feel like losing weight shouldn’t be this hard.

True to form, the same thought patterns are going through my head again: it’s too hard. I’m not that far off my goal, perhaps I should just learn to be happy where I’m at. Maybe I’ll never be pleased with my weight anyway, so I should just be happy now.

I know this is fear and laziness masking as sense, but I can’t help feeling this way.

It’s also interesting to notice that it took me less than a month to turn what started out as a completely reasonable goal (I want to be in the 72kg weight class for power lifting) into a dieting obsession.

So, what should I do?

I’ve decided to put my scale in the closet. I’ll still be measuring my intake, so the odds of gaining weight should be low. I’ll stay paleo and keep my training program going. And who knows, maybe alleviating the pressure of building my hopes up and having them crushed every Tuesday morning might make my body respond better to the new diet? At least it’ll give me time to wait for the slow and steady results of living healthy and training well.

Do you think I can avoid the Circle of Fail this time? How do I keep on keeping on without turning obsessive or getting depressed? What would you do in my situation?

July 10, 2011

The cruelest mirror in the world

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You think you know what I’m going to say, don’t you? You think I’m going to say something semi-profound like “the cruelest mirror in the world is the one that reflects your true self” and then back it up with Taoist philosophy. Well, I’ve had a few glasses of wine, a lot of socializing and a bit more philosophy than I can handle, so I won’t.

The cruelest mirror in the world is in my new bathroom. I have the big normal mirror, but I also have two cupboards right beneath it with mirror doors. They show the part where my tummy meets my lower parts. Now, that would be okay, if it wasn’t for the fact that these mirrors also work as magnifying glasses. Not enough to make it immediately obvious, but just enough to feed my insecurities by making my least favorite body part seem bigger and less appealing. It took me about a week to realize that I hadn’t gained weight just around my belly. Now I just have to remember it every morning.

Why couldn’t I get the mirror of erised instead?

June 7, 2011

Training to be a writer

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Kristen Lamb wrote an insightful post about what it takes to be a successful writer in this day and age: Writing is not only a marathon

I wholeheartedly agree, but must admit that this post has me terrified. What if I miss out on some of these things? What if I can’t create the social media buzz needed for my book to take off? What if I fail to promote myself at the right networking occasions? The pitfalls suddenly seem much deeper and more numerous.

I’m going to do the only thing I can: go back to writing my synopsis. First sell the book, then worry about promoting it. It’s going to be okay, right?

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