August 24, 2011

Dealing with rejection

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Rejection. We all know it’s part of the process. We prepare our pieces as well as we can and send them out into the world knowing that most of the time, they’ll be sent right back with a small note saying “thanks, but no thanks.”

And it’s not only writers who face rejection. Most people put themselves out there for new jobs, promising dates, election processes, and they all have to face possible rejection as well. So we should be used to it, right?

Wrong. No matter how many times you’ve gone through it, or how well you brace for it, rejection still stings. That’s why I crawled up on the couch today with fresh coffee and homemade pizza. Good food and trashy TV didn’t make me feel a lot better, but allowing myself to wallow, if only for a short time, made me able to get back up again and keep going. After all, there’s a draft I have to finish, a query letter I have to revise, and a short story I need to complete for my next writing group. The world keeps turning, but sometimes you have to pause it a little, if only so that you can get back up on the horse.

Sean Hood (screenwriter for the new Conan movie) have written a great post on how to deal with a flop

How do you deal with rejection? Do you brush it off and keep going, or do you need to wallow a little?



  1. I run/bike faster after getting a rejection.
    I’ve been applying for quite a few jobs lately and if I go out running or biking after getting an email saying I didn’t get the job I tend to push myself a bit harder.

    It might not be how I deal with rejection, but when it happens it’s the way that makes me feel good about myself afterwards.

    Comment by Gaute Gunleiksrud (@gauterg) — August 24, 2011 @ 4:06 pm | Reply

    • Nice! I’m trying new PR’s on weightlifting tonight. Here’s to hoping it’ll help! 😉

      Comment by nascentnovelist — August 24, 2011 @ 4:48 pm | Reply

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